my Personal Boundaries + Professional Expectations

MY HARD LIMITS FOR PLAY ARE:

  • No blood play, needles, roman showers, or scat play.

  • No race play, degradation of minority groups, transphobia, antiSemitism, Islamaphobia, etc.

  • No illegal activity.

  • No play that involves non-consenting bystanders.

  • No touching my body without clear permission.

I EXPECT ALL CLIENTS TO UPHOLD THE FOLLOWING:

  • Respect for me, my boundaries, and my professional screening process.

  • Honesty about wants & needs, one's own limits & experience.

  • Proper use of safe words, as negotiated.

etiquette + Booking policies

Ethics: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink philosophy

Ethical sluts only! I practice Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. Real consent is real sexy, and for it to be real, it ought to be freely given, revokable, informed, enthusiastic and specific. I respect all your boundaries, soft and hard limits, and you respect mine. We communicate openly and honestly during negotiations and during session with proper use of safe words. I practice some after-care to make sure you're of sound mind and body before you leave, and I am available to check in with if sub drop hits you later. If you have questions about RACK philosophy, or would like more education on kink in general,  I recommend starting here:

etiquette: sobriety, realness, Preparedness

Bring your real self, it's the sexiest part of you. My favorite part about BDSM is the permission we give each other to present authentically. We get to bare our uglies— our secrets, kinks, and shadow sides— and have them welcomed with unconditional positive regard. I am a real person and I expect you are, too. That said, please arrive freshly showered or prepared to shower when you arrive. Don't wear any cologne or sticky hair products to our session, and I welcome you to dress casually.  Make sure you are well-hydrated and have a snack before our session time, as low blood sugar interferes with our play. Since medical emergencies aren’t sexy, and consent (namely: freely given, revokable, informed, enthusiastic and specific consent) is sexy, I insist that you do not use any drugs or alcohol before or during our session. I do have CPR & First Aid training and always have supplies on hand, but let’s be risk-aware and avoid too many bloopers.

References and Screening

I do a basic, industry-standard screening of all new clients to make sure you’re a safe person to play with. I ask that all new clients list two references on their Session Request Form— the current contact info for two Mistresses or other SW providers you've seen previously who would remember you and can vet for you. If you cannot provide these references, I can screen you in-person with a coffee date ($150/hr), or remotely (at no cost) if you email me a valid ID photo + a clear photo of you holding this ID next to your face. Home address and other personal info can be covered in these photos, I mostly need to make sure you are a real, living person with a name and face that match. Also, getting a quick sense of how big/tall you are can help me prepare the right-fit equipment for our session. All sensitive/identifying information is stored in my encrypted Proton inbox and deleted after I’ve determined you’re safe to play with.

respect for privacy and discretion

I absolutely respect and will protect your privacy, and I expect you to do the same for me. All personal & identifying information collected during the screening process will be deleted after you can be vetted as safe to play with. If it's not okay for you to come home with marks on your body, I have the skill and creativity to put you in real submission and explore deep power exchange without inflicting marks. I pride myself in being able to provide a safe place for you to temporarily completely lose your ego, but put it back on in tact when you leave our session. I keep my email communications limited to logistics and won’t ever call you without your permission.  Let me know if you have specific boundaries related to communications during our negotiations.

BOOKING in advance

I am an exclusive, low-volume provider and my creative process is such that I prefer to dedicate the energy of an entire day for each play session. As a result, my calendar fills quickly. Expect to book about a week ahead of your desired play date. Monthly regulars get first dibs/priority booking. I do not book same-day sessions. New clients will need to allow me a few days to complete the screening process before I can confirm booking.

Deposit

I require a 25-35% deposit on the total session fee. If I accept your Play Session Request and we move forward with booking, your deposit is due within 48 hours of you receiving my formal booking confirmation. Find more info on all of this on my Appointment Details page. My deposit and rates are non-negotiable.

Tribute

Full tribute is expected promptly before the beginning of our scene. Cash in an unsealed envelope preferred for in-person sessions, but I accept electronic transactions if processed 1-2 hours before our appointment time. If we meet in public, your cash tribute can be in a small gift envelope or tucked into the pages of a book you'd like to gift me.  Acceptable electronic payment methods are detailed on my Appointment Details page.

CANCELLATION

Be sure to notify me 48hrs or more before our session if you need to cancel or reschedule. As a professional, I depend on clients keeping their appointments with me. Clients who cancel but do not reschedule forfeit their deposit. Clients who cancel within 48 hours of our session start time not only forfeit their deposit, but are also still responsible for the entire session fee.